Showing posts with label Sexual Assault Awareness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sexual Assault Awareness. Show all posts

Monday, September 2, 2019

Book #Review: A Deep Dark Secret by Kimberla Lawson Roby .@KimberlaLRoby

Book Title: A Deep Dark Secret
Author:  Kimberla L Roby |WebsiteTwitterFacebook| Instagram
Publisher: William Morrow
Genre: Christian Fiction
Series/Standalone: Standalone
Format: Hardcover, Paperback
Cost: $19.99
Pages: 179
How I got it: Purchased
Purchase: Amazon | Barnes & Noble | Indiebound
Publication Date Sept 29, 2009
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Synopsis:
Kimberla Lawson Roby explores the consequences of a life-altering family trauma in A Deep Dark Secret, tackling controversy with the same storytelling brio and startling insight into human nature that made her previous books New York Times bestsellers. Leaving behind the world of philandering preacher Curtis Black and his family—featured in her acclaimed novels Too Much of a Good Thing, Love and Lies, Sin No More, and The Best of Everything—Roby enters the life of a little girl hiding A Deep Dark Secret and gets to the troubling root of an all too prevalent societal and family issue. Both groundbreaking and ultimately hopeful, this coming-of-age story is powerful, brave, and unforgettable.
****Trigger Warning for those who are sensitive to books about child abuse, sexual abuse, rape and suicide.******

I went into this book like normal, completely oblivious to the synopsis and my gawd I needed that warning. The first time I tried to read this I had to put it down because I couldn't make it past the first chapter I wasn't ready. Now two years later I [icked it up and flew through the book. It's short read but it's devastating in its content.

Told from the perspective of a young girl who is being sexually abused starting at age five until age twelve when the abuse escalates and she begins to try to find ways to end it. I was so devastated reading this because 1) you know it's true for some children who are abused. The stats here in America is 1 in every 4 girls and 1 in every 8 boys have been abused * and that is severely under-reported* 2) the manipulation described was spot on and oh gawd I just wanted to rescue her and keep her safe.

I became so emotionally invested in this story, the young girls struggle to find her way to safety, to not just leave it all behind, her desperation when she realizes there is another possible victim close by. Just the reality of her journey and the devastation one person is causing in her life. Reading how she reacts and how her friend is reacting to her journey as well, a friend who is 'boy crazy' and what she's willing to do to have someone love her.  Consent was also discussed in this book as the protagonist began to explore being a pre-teen who wants to feel something for the cute boy in her class.

I'm so glad that Kimberla wrote this because it's a book every single black mother needs to read, it's a book that needs to be in the church, it needs to be given to students in school so they can read the story and see the manipulation and how it worked to silence her for so long.  I need teachers to read this and see what the signs are.  There were so many who should have seen something was wrong but no one dug deep enough, no one asked the right questions and these girls were left to fend for themselves.

The ending was great, I loved that we saw the two varied reactions to the truth coming out.  I'm glad we got to see how those closest to the survivor acted, and how they have changed by telling their truth.  It's a necessary read and I just felt all the emotions reading this.
 ★★★★
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Happy Reading my loves, 

Monday, April 2, 2018

2018 Sexual Assault Awareness Month TBR

Hi my loves,

Welcome back to my scond year of reading & discussing that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.  I wanted to pick these books up and share with you my journey through them.  I got most of my list from The Teen Librarian Toolbox's list of books about Consent, Sex and our teens.

These are the books from my shelves dealing with this month's awareness topic: Sexual Assault and Consent.I have read a few from the list over the years and you can find the links here:


  • Easy Tamara Webber
  • Live Through This Mindi Scott
  • One Weekend Girlfriend and Second Chance Boyfriend by Monica Murphy
  • Wait For You by J Lynn
  • Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson

  • And these are the ones on my shelves that I want to get read for the month:
    • The Mockingbirds by Daisy Whitney
    • What happens next by Colleen Clayton
    • What we saw by Aaron Hatlzer
    • Just Listen by Sarah Dessen
    • A Deep Dark Secret by Kimberla Lawson Roby
    • A Natural History of Rape by Randy Thornhill and Craig T. Palmer  ** This wasn't recommended but I recently picked it up at the local library book sale right before the month started last year in 2017 and thought this is perfect.**
    That's it, those are the books on my radar for this topic and these are the ones I own, there are plenty more out there and if you have read any please feel free to share in the comments down below and we can talk about them.  Thanks so much for stopping by and

    Have a great reading week

    Tuesday, April 4, 2017

    2017 Sexual Assault Awareness Month TBR

    Hi my loves,

    We are still on the topic of April being sexual assault awareness month and I wanted to pick these books up and share with you my journey through them.  I got most of my list from The Teen Librarian Toolbox's list of books about Consent, Sex and our teens.

    These are the books from my shelves dealing with this month's awareness topic: Sexual Assault and Consent.

    I have read a few from the list over the years and you can find the links here:



  • Easy Tamara Webber
  • Live Through This Mindi Scott
  • One Weekend Girlfriend and Second Chance Boyfriend by Monica Murphy
  • Wait For You by J Lynn
  • Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson

  • And these are the ones on my shelves that I want to get read for the month:

    • The Mockingbirds by Daisy Whitney
    • What happens next by Colleen Clayton
    • What we saw by Aaron Hatlzer
    • Just Listen by Sarah Dessen
    • A Deep Dark Secret by Kimberla Lawson Roby
    • A Natural History of Rape by Randy Thornhill and Craig T. Palmer  ** This wasn't recommended but I recently picked it up at the local library book sale right before the month started and thought this is perfect.**

    That's it, those are the books on my radar for this topic and these are the ones I own, there are plenty more out there and if you have read any please feel free to share in the comments down below and we can talk about them.  Thanks so much for stopping by and

    Have a great reading week


    Monday, April 3, 2017

    April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month

    Hi my loves, today isn't just going to be about books, nope today is going to be a serious discussion we should be having, with our friends, partners, family and mostly importantly our children.

    It's been a while since I've had one of these discussion and recommendation posts;  so excuse me if I ramble.  This is going to be my attempt at collecting all the resources I use and like to share when it comes to the important discussion of consent.  Here's why it matters ( Taken ffrom SAAM's website)

    In the United States April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM). The goal of SAAM is to raise public awareness about sexual violence and to educate communities on how to prevent it. 
    Sexual violence is a major public healthhuman rights and social justice issue. We need everyone’s help to end it. Thank you for getting involved and for supporting SAAM efforts. 
    Since 2001, NSVRC supports SAAM organizers with resources, tools, and training. You can ask us questions about sexual violence, prevention, or planning a campaign.  
    Now we all should be discerning for ourselves our ideas about consent and what that means, discussing it, reasearching, learning new thoughts and ideas while also honoring the *good*ideas we have.  One of the ways in which we can teach about life and the things that affects it is through books (I mean we all know that, it's why we love reading) 
    Recommendations for Books:

    My favourite resource for book recommendations dealing with Sex, Consent and Sexual Assault is The Teen Librarian Toolbox.  This blog is so informative, well organized and has clear cut labels and wonderful discussions of how to talk to teens about sex, and consent, as well as always sharing great book recommendations.

    My favorite fiction books dealing with consent that I have read in the last few years are: ( Ihave reviews linked on each book)


    Non Fiction Books:  These I haven't read, but they are on the TBR Pile they come highly recommend by just about everybody who has read them and especially by Book Riot (who have several lists with these books on the,)

    1. Missola by Jon Krakauer
    2. Surviving the Silence, Black Women's Stories of Rape by Charlotte Baker
    3. Voices of Rape by Jane Bode
    4. Men Explain things to Me by Rebecca Solnik
    5. Against Our Will by Susan Brownmiller
    6. At the Dark end of the street by Danielle Mcguire
    7. Rape is Rape by Jody Raphael
    8. Asking For It by Kate Harding
    9. Transforming A Rape Culture by Emilie Buchwala
    10. Redefining Rape by Estelle Freedman
    11. Rape, Sexual Violence and History by Joanna Burke

    Regular resources: who have links to local resources, classes and ways in which you can help.
    RAINN: Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network
    DVSAC: Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Coalition

    A few years ago the concept of consent as being discussed all over Youtube and book tube and I as so proud to see some of my favorites taking the time to talk about consent and push the envelope on discussing what was acceptable and what wasn't    I'm sure if you look you can find a ton of videos about it.  But here are my fave videos about what consent is and what it isn't.

    Sexual Abuse, Consent and Culture by Hank Green

    Sex & Consent by Charlieissocoolike

    One of my favorite Youtubers is a young man who is hopefully going to continue shining for the next few years Nathan Zed *who was 17 at the times of this video*  always has something good to say from the time he called Nash Grier out (to be honest I still don't know who Nash is and I'm not invested enough after seeing the reaction videos to him to find out) Nash Grier Rant to his video calling out youtubers who were accused of being rapist and their bad behaviors.


    If you type in Consent in the Youtube search bar the following lists come up, I can't vouch for all the videos but a few of them are really good.


    I recently sobbed my way through the Netflix original Audrie & Daisy.  This made me furious, it made me so sad and so damn tired.  We are failing our kids so badly in every way when these stories come out and then no one is punished.  We need change and we need justice.

    You can read survivor's stories on campus like the Breaking Out Campaign run by students on the Duke University campus.

    I'm sure there are tons of others we can discuss, these are just a few of the ones that I know of.  And that's it, share in the comments down below if you have any recommendations for books about consent that you think I should be reading and I'll see you tomorrow.

    Happy Reading